There’s a big difference between acting strong and being strong. Truly successful and happy people don’t rise to the top by acting strong; they become better by growing stronger.
It’s not always the things we do that make the biggest difference in our lives; it’s often the things we avoid doing that have the biggest effect.
You may have heard of the phrase “You Are A Man, Be Strong . Men Don’t Cry” Well some women have since adapted the phrase “ You Are A Strong Woman. Don’t Cry. Stand Tall”.
As a culture obsessed with appearance, strength and achievement, it’s easy to see why crying is not on the list for most desirable traits. Well if we don’t allow ourselves to cry, or become vulnerable, how then should we let go of anger, fear, disappointment, heartbreak, loss and more?
However, because we are almost always hiding something, piling on more and more often has a negative effect, rather than a positive one.
People who act strong, yet are not, are likely to;
1. Become very aggressive or bossy
3. Become very hard to approach and please
4. Get jealous over the success of others
When we bottle our emotions in and suppress them, however, never letting anyone see into our soul, then we are denying others an amazing opportunity to show up for us.
We become like the unshakable lighthouse tower, standing tall in the midst of a storm yet inside we are crying for affection, affirmation, a shoulder to lean on, a friend to talk to, a safe environment to vent.
When we act strong, we deny our relationships the opportunity to expand, evolve, and grow to a new level, and we are essentially stopping the flow of love between us and others.
We are relational beings, don’t close people out of your life, don’t create a big wall between you and others, relationships are assets, they elevate us to live a fulfilled life and fulfil purpose. Within your circle lies a confidant, be deliberate on finding that one person that you can always talk to.
DON’T ACT STRONG, BE STRONG. PEOPLE WHO ACT STRONG ARE OFTEN THE WEAKEST.